The Only 3 Things You Need to Know to Finally Stop Hiding

Do you know what it feels like to know what to do and even know how to do it, yet feel so stricken with fear that you just want to hide? You’re not alone – many high achieving women struggle with the same thing. They know they have an amazing gift, strength, experience and expertise that they want to share with the world and yet, when it’s time to be the center of attention and to be the face of their brand, it’s hard for them to show up and be seen.

 

Today, I want to share with you the only three things that you need to know to finally stop hiding.

So, here we go:

  1. Your voice has value. I don’t know if anyone has ever told you, but I’m the one that is called to share this, to remind you, to present it to you in this moment – your voice has amidst value, regardless of what others have said to you or made you believe. Even if you feel like your expertise, your skills, your gifts are basic, I’m here to tell you that your basic is still a blessing for someone. Your basic is a blessing for the people you’re called to serve. People are out here looking for a solution, the solution that you have to offer by way of your gifts, skills, ideas, expertise, your experiences. They are looking for, and it does not require a celebrity, it does not require credentials – it requires you to show up, to own your voice and know without a shadow of a doubt that your voice has value.
  2. People are not even thinking about you. As humans, unless we are thinking about some definite problem, we spend about 95% of our time thinking about ourselves. What does this mean? This means that the majority of people are not even thinking about you as much as you think they are. This means that when you choose not to show up out of fear that other people will judge you and challenge your credibility, you’re only cheating yourself, you’re only confusing yourself and you’re only deceiving yourself. That’s even more reason for you to show up, and when you show up, give people context as to how you fit into their lives, give them context into how you provide a solution for them. Because if we’re thinking about ourselves most of the time, we’re always asking ourselves how does this thing fit into my life, how does this thing help me. You have to be mindful that people are thinking about themselves and you have to be able to show up and show up consistently to provide context for how your product, your service, your gifts, your expertise, fits into their lives.
  3. You are made in the image of God. The final and most important thing you need to know and truly believe is that you are made in the image of God. You’re royalty. When a member of royalty speaks, people listen. You are royalty, but the thing is, you’re hiding. And the people who are listening for your voice, the names that are assigned to your voice cannot hear you. They’re searching, but you’re hiding. Royalty does not hide, royalty does not run. Royalty shows up and royalty speaks up. You have names assigned to your voice, now is the time for you to amplify it because they can’t hear you.

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How to Make Decisions with Confidence

One of the things that I see high achieving professional women and entrepreneurs that I work with struggle with a lot is overthinking decision-making and just really not being sure of how to stop second-guessing themselves and stalling out on taking action. So today, I’m going to show you how to make decisions with confidence, because most of the time on the outside, as high achievers, we look like we have it all together. But on the inside, we’re like a hair away from losing their mind and feeling overwhelmed. And honestly, people don’t even know how much we really second guess ourselves, because to them, we just like we got things up. 

One of the number one reasons you struggle with making decisions is that you value what other people think too much, you’ve got to stop asking other people what you should do. Stop asking other people, What would you do in this situation? How do you think I should handle this? Stop. You’ve got to lean into yourself. Part of the problem is, you’re so used to leaning on the opinions of others, and that within itself makes you stall out, shrink back and stop yourself from taking action. You’ve got to learn to trust yourself, and trust your ability to make sound decisions.

 Be mindful, that doesn’t mean that for big decisions you shouldn’t seek wise counsel, but it does mean you should not be going to three or four people asking for their advice on one on a topic. And know that wise counsel means I’m going to go to the wisest in this area of expertise to get some insight on possibilities. And they’re still probably not going to tell me what I should do. They’re probably just going to give me some scenarios to weigh in on and consider.

 So stop asking other folks and build your own self trust, even if you’ve let yourself down in the past. We’ve all made some wrong turns. You need to learn how to trust and lean on your own decision making. Making the mindset shift from “what if” is so important, because a lot of times we get overwhelmed because when we’re faced with an important decision, we’re like, what if this happens?

 What if that happens ? What if what if ? What if ? Most of the “what if” situations that we brainstorm don’t even happen. So imagine how much you miss out on in life if you make decisions based off of what doesn’t even come to pass. So shift your mindset from “what if, what if, what if” to “even if, even if, even if”, because that’s just how big, bad and bold you are.

 Even if this decision goes south, even if this isn’t the absolute best option, even if there are other alternatives out there, even if other people don’t agree with the decision I’m going to make, EVEN IF… I’m going to come out on top, I’m going to make this thing work. I’m going to leverage any mistakes for opportunities to learn. I’m going to become better on the other side of this decision.

 Even if everything under the sun could possibly go wrong, I’m still going to bounce back. So shift your mindset from “what if” to “even if”.

 And then number three is really simple. Write down the problem and the potential solutions, sometimes just getting it out of our head and start toying with our thoughts. It really helps bring this sense of clarity.

 Just seeing it on paper or simply making a voice note in your phone saying out loud, sometimes when we just say it out loud, we answer ourselves. It’s like, oh, now that I hear it, it’s pretty straightforward that I should go this route. So give yourself the space to just get it out of your head and onto paper or get it out of your head and say, OK, it helps with the processing, it helps connect the dots.

 I felt like sharing these three ways to make decisions with confidence was important because you are called to do big things and that’s going to require big decisions, it’s going to require you being able to make decisions that go against the grain sometimes, decisions that are foreign to you, decisions you’ve never had to make before.

You have to be able to stand firm on something, some type of framework, some type of strategies to help you show up in those moments and not shrink. Whether you’re afraid or not. You can trust yourself and really and truly, if you do nothing other than shift your mindset from “what if” to “even if,” that alone will give you the strength you need to make those decisions, whether you’re afraid, whether you are nervous, it does not matter.

You’ll be able to say “even if they can’t look me in my face after I make this decision”, even if I don’t know where the resources are going to come from to support this thing, even if…I’m going to be OK. So I hope this helps you start making decisions with more confidence, let me know, reach out to me on Instagram, let me know which one are you going to implement? Which one do you think is going to work best for you or help you the most on your journey to making decisions with confidence ?

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Now, if you’re a high achieving woman who’s been wrestling with knowing there just has to be more to life in this, you feel stuck, lost and don’t know what to do next. And you’re just fed up and tired of second guessing yourself and letting it hold you back from living out your purpose in a big way. Go to www.BrittanySherell.com to schedule your strategy session today so we can map out exactly how to gain crystal clear clarity around where you are in life, where you want to be, and a step by step plan with accountability and support to get you there. It doesn’t matter if you tried in the past and it didn’t work out. This time is different because this time it’s personal. Do not waste another moment going through the motions and feeling guilty about knowing you’re called to do more in life and feeling confused about how to make sense of it. Just go to www.BrittanySherell.com to schedule a strategy session to get unstuck and create a life you actually love.

3 Ways to Add More Time to Your Day

You’re a high achieving woman, so of course, you need more time in the day. It seems like there’s always a million things to do, make that a million and one with only 10 minutes to get it done right. So I wanted to share three ways to add more time to your day that I found extremely helpful. And I just wanted to pass this greatness along to you, too.

So let’s jump right into it… 

#1 Handle the hard stuff first

So whatever that thing is that you really procrastinate on, that you really don’t want to do, go ahead and champion it at the start of your day. What happens is, when you procrastinate and you keep putting it off and you keep saying, “oh, well, let me do this thing here really quick first and I’ll get to it,” What happens is you’re carrying this layer of anxiety and stress associated with completing that test. And you’re carrying it throughout the day. It then ends up impacting how you perform on the rest of your tasks, So go ahead and get that thing out of the way so that you can show up and perform optimally on the rest of your tasks. And you have it out of the way. You have a clear conscience. You can be so much more productive once you’ve activated that that level of of freedom, that mental freedom, that emotional freedom, so that you’re not weighed down by the thought of still having to do that dreadful thing because it is already out of the way. 

A prime example of this is how my parents handle their taxes. My parents absolutely despise filing taxes for whatever reason. They absolutely hate filing taxes. They always wait until like the day before the deadline, April 15th or whatever it is. I don’t really know because I never wait till the last drop like they do, but they always wait till the last minute to file their taxes because they despise it. I’m just like, why don’t you just go ahead and do it at the top of the tax season and get out of the way? That way you’re not harboring the stress and anxiety, the whole tax season and doing this to yourself on repeat year after year. So it’s that same concept. I know there is an influencer  on Instagram, Mattie James who always says slay your Goliath. And what she meant by that is, whatever the big thing is that you dread doing, avoid procrastinating and slay it at the top of your day. Get it out of the way. Knock it out. Just go all in and get it done at the top of your day. Because otherwise, it’s going to slow you down, even if you think it won’t, it will, because subconsciously you’re going throughout the day like, “oh my gosh, I still have to do this thing. I still have to do the thing. I still have to do this thing,” even if it’s not at the forefront of your mind, subconsciously it is wearing you out. So just knock it out of the park so that you can enjoy the rest of your day and freely give your energy to the other tasks that you have, that you find more enjoyable. 

#2 Maximize Your Gap Time

Your gap time is literally just the gaps in your schedule. So, gaps don’t mean you’re necessarily sitting sitting there twiddling your thumbs, but there are just these gaps where you have time where you can actually do just a little bit more to maximize that time. So, for instance, your commute to work. If you have a book goal where you want to read a certain number of books each month and you’re just struggling to find the time to actually sit down with a physical book to hit your goal, consider audio books and using your commute to work to start chomping down on your book goal so you can be listening to your books on audible while you are commuting to work. Making sure you have a book with you in your car at all times, so that if you happen to go get an oil change or get your tires fixed or you’re at the hair salon, you always have a book that’s readily available that you can just grab and go.
You know, just maximizing your gap time in that way, having affirmations on your phone or something, where if you have a few minutes before meeting starts, you can quickly go to those affirmations on your phone for a quick reset. 


#3 Make Your To-Do List at Nighttime

Most people make the mistake of making a to do list at the top of their morning.
But research shows that for every one minute you spend on your to-do list that night before, it can potentially add up to 10 minutes to your day the next day. So that means spend two minutes the night before on your to-do list, potentially add 20 minutes to your day the next day. 

And why is that ? It’s because our brains are super incredible and they unconsciously, like your brain, unconsciously works on the to do list while you’re asleep. So you typically wake up and you have more creative ways of achieving whatever it is that was on your to do list because you’re basically giving your brain free will to process the brain dump. First of all, you got it out of your head. You’re going to sleep better because you’re not sharing all of that. But your brain is subconsciously working on the to-do list while you’re asleep in that. Amazing. So you’ll typically wake up with more creative ways that will probably shave time off of your tasks. So that is a huge advantage to making a to-do list the night before. You also wake up feeling more in command of your day because you’re not wondering what’s next for the day or what’s what’s on the agenda for that day. You’ve already kind of covered, of course, things happen, but you’ve already kind of, you know, outlined your day. So you’re not just guessing, you’re not trying to catch up. You’re in command. 

So in a nutshell, the three tips for how to add more time to your day are: handle your hard stuff first, consider things that you can do simultaneously with other things, and I don’t mean like serious multitasking. I mean like.
When you’re doing a low-focus task in a high focus’s, then that’s different, like you’re driving and listening to a book that’s not really requiring you to multitask to the third degree because true multitasking has been proven to be ineffective. So that’s not what I’m saying. Also, really, really thinking about the gaps in your schedule that you can maximize, whether it’s two minutes or 20 minutes. And then number three, complete your to do list the night before. Three ways to add more times the other day, and I know they work because I use them too, so make sure you share them with someone else is well, get what you need from this and share the rest with someone else.

Now, if you’re a high achieving woman who’s been wrestling with knowing there just has to be more to life than this, you feel stuck, lost and don’t know what to do next. And you’re just fed up and tired of second guessing yourself and letting it hold you back from living out your purpose in a big way. Go to www.BrittanySherell.com to schedule your strategy session today so we can map out exactly how to gain crystal clear clarity around where you are in life, where you want to be, and a step by step plan with accountability and support to get you there.
It doesn’t matter if you tried in the past and it didn’t work out. This time is different because this time it’s personal. Do not waste another moment going through the motions and feeling guilty about knowing you’re called to do more in life and feeling confused about how to make sense of it all. Just go to www.BrittanySherell.com to get unstuck and create a life you actually love.